Some men made it clear from the outset that they were in it for sex and sex only. I can understand why – can you ever be entirely sure who you’re meeting? Safety first people! I don’t think she was entirely comfortable with her daughter meeting up with random strangers. My mum liked to know I was safe, so I’d always tell her the who, where and when of my dating adventures. Just to put her at ease. Not only for a drop of Dutch courage, but because there were other people around, creating a ready-made atmosphere. I always opted for a busy bar (or similar) for a first date.
But after meeting a few men, dating became familiar and easier. And I quickly started to learn what I did/didn’t want in a partner.
I always felt a little nervous before a first date particularly at the start of my journey as a singleton. I could normally tell within 30 seconds or so whether the date was going to go well or not. Knowing instantly with some that there’d be no 2 nd date.
I’m not ashamed to say it – I had handfuls of first dates with men I’d met on Plenty of Fish.